Rules

I’ve spent most of my life following rules. Rules led me to a life where I worked in a cubicle all day only to come home to a reformed slut wife who would pawn the kids off on me and run off to the “chiropractor”. 

Fuck the rules. They exist to keep us in line, to make us good sheep. They prey on our most basic needs to belong to a group. 

More recently, rules led me to run a blog that had an email subscribe list, sharing buttons, and blog posts between 800 and 2,000 words. 

I was trying to grow a Twitter following where “they” tell you to tweet more often and get into people’s mentions. 

I was following rules again, just a different set. 

Fuck all of that. I can tweet as much or as little as I’d like. I can post 5,000 word blog posts or 100 word blog posts. I don’t care. 

For most of my life I was led to believe that I had to do things a certain way. That behavior doesn’t die quickly. 

I’ve internalized a lot of redpill wisdom, but the 32 years of conditioning prior to that doesn’t go without a fight. 

I’d be lying if I told you I had it all figured out. Anyone that tells you that is lying. 

What I do know is that correcting course is necessary part of this journey. One minute we are filled with strength, hope, and optimism. The next we as clueless as they day we were born. 

I am still going to follow a set of rules, but I am the one creating them. I have seen what works and what doesn’t. 

I can tell you for certain that living life in someone else’s frame, whether that’s a woman’s, your kids’, or your parents’, is the fastest way to misery. 

But don’t simply replace their frame with that of some red pill blogger or online guru. Make it your own frame. Write down your own commandments if you need to. Tape them to the bathroom mirror. 

Most of all, don’t feel any shame for needing a daily reminder to live life for yourself. I know I sure do. This blog is my reminder. These words are as much for me as they are for you. 

Why I Deleted My Successful Blog

I have read of authors writing entire books then throwing them in the trash. Perhaps that is what I am doing here. All I know is that I needed to start over.

I got caught up worrying about affiliate marketing and the blogging circle-jerk. No longer.

My strength has always been sharing my story for others to learn from.

On my old site I could no longer do that. I made the mistake of telling a few people in my personal life about that blog, and from that point forward I could feel underlying stress every time I’d write.

I wasn’t writing freely.

I had the most fun writing a couple of years ago when I was completely anonymous on a free blog platform.

Now, I was holding things back, and that was hurting you, the reader.

It’s the deepest, darkest observations of our own soul that transform us. It is also the realization that we are not alone in feeling them that gives us strength.

I want to write for you. I don’t want to write for SEO or affiliate marketing.

I was spending too much time with technical issues, themes, email lists, and hosting plans.

I got tired of worrying about a featured image or getting all the links right in my posts. Too much time spent.

My time is limited and I feel invigorated when I write. I want to write, plain and simple.

I feel a tremendous weight lifted by deleting that old blog.

I will bring back the best posts and update them here. They helped a lot of men, but now I can help even more.

Don’t believe the lie that you need top notch hosting and your own domain to share your message.

The biggest influencers in this sphere use free wordpress.com themes and hosting.

I was spending too much money. I like simplicity and I had made things complicated. My operating expenses on that blog were several hundred dollars a year, yet it was arguably no better than a free blog.

My goal is to have my living expenses as low as possible. That brings freedom.

From now on I can write for you, and me.

Will I switch over to a fancy url again someday? Maybe. Probably not.

Will I do affiliate marketing? No.

Will I monetize? I will sell a book someday, that’s it. I do some coaching for divorced guys as well, that won’t change.

Here’s the thing, I’m not going to self-promote and have some big launch of my next big project. I don’t have a long-term plan like that, I’d be lying if I said I did.

Nope, I am making all of this up as I go along, and that’s the beauty of it. No over-thinking or trying to stay “on message”. Just me and my thoughts and an uncertain path.

Thanks for following along.